Women only orgasm when they are alone, not with a lover.
Lifestyle FashionFor men, penetrative sex is more rewarding than masturbation alone. So it’s hard for men to accept that the experience of a receptive woman is the reverse. Men assume that the act of penetration is essential to become sexually aroused. They don’t realize that intercourse is only arousing from the male perspective. Coitus is a mating act that has a social context for a female. It is not an erotic act. There is no taboo, suspense or sexual tension.
Men’s drive to penetrate inherently involves another person. But women don’t have this hormonal boost that men do. So, women have not developed the ability to be aroused by a man’s body because his orgasm does not contribute to the reproductive process. There is no reason why the female orgasm should occur during sexual activity with a lover. The circumstances in which women have an orgasm are much more limited than those for men. But women are more self-sufficient than men because they don’t need a lover.
Women are used to engaging in sexual activities with a lover without experiencing an orgasm. It’s just not possible. A woman is not even aroused by a lover. But equally a woman does not experience arousal even when she is alone like a man does. A man’s arousal is very evident by his erection. But his mind is also very focused on eroticism. He can orgasm quite easily just by applying the right manual stimulation. When women stimulate themselves without mental arousal, they never achieve arousal or orgasm either. Men may think this behavior is very strange. But in fact, men do exactly the same. Men randomly stimulate a female lover and then assume she had an orgasm. Women are doing the same.
A woman must be single to discover orgasm. As long as she is a virgin, a woman can imagine what she could enjoy with a lover. Once a woman is in a relationship with a man, she masters her need for intercourse. This is how Nature intended it to be. The female orgasm is simply a private pleasure for a woman to enjoy alone. Sexual activity is meant to focus on the male orgasm.
Due to the male experience, it is incorrectly assumed that women should orgasm more easily with a lover than when alone. Masturbation gives women the opportunity to enjoy arousal and orgasm without the life-threatening risks involved in sexual intercourse (pregnancy and childbirth).
Straight people had never heard of the clitoris until Kinsey and Hite published it. But his work was rejected by society. Even today, the clitoris is associated with the lesbian sexual act. We can conclude that clitoral stimulation does not cause a female orgasm with a lover. Presumably, women don’t masturbate either during sex or alone. Otherwise women would tell men how they achieve arousal and orgasm. Unless that is so, we are suggesting that women are too shy to talk about such things with a lover.
When a man crouches between his legs, there is something to hold on to. When a woman does the same there is nothing. Well, maybe a problem. That’s all she has to work with. It’s amazing that she manages anything.
A woman cannot get the stimulation she needs for orgasm except by lying on her forehead and pushing down on her vulva, simultaneously squeezing her buttocks. This is impossible to achieve by engaging in any form of sexual activity with a lover. More importantly, a woman is not aroused by a lover and is unable to gain the mental focus on fantasy required for orgasm.
A woman does not have an orgasm spontaneously. A woman is never as intensely aroused as men usually are. The use of fantasy is vital to generate psychological arousal. Orgasm is achieved by consciously focusing on an erotic fantasy. Instead of being fully conscious, a woman is almost in a semi-conscious dream state. If she gets interrupted, then she misses out on having an orgasm. If a woman doesn’t come up with a suitable fantasy, she can stimulate her clitoris as much as she wants but absolutely nothing will happen.
The sociable nature of sexual activity with a lover prevents a woman from generating her own arousal. A woman needs to be alone, in an environment without distractions. Women’s use of fantasy is like meditation, and a total mental block is incompatible with making love. Women’s use of fantasy does not work with a lover, so they cannot orgasm with a lover, regardless of who provides the stimulation. That is why a woman has no incentive to stimulate herself with a lover. To reach orgasm, a woman needs to concentrate and focus on eroticism much more than a man does. Men are much more easily and naturally aroused, especially with a lover.
A woman cannot be stimulated to orgasm with a lover due to the inability to become aroused when someone else is present. This is how the sexual psychology of women works. Women’s fantasies involve fictional men. As soon as a woman imagines a man she knows, the reality of how she sees him as a social (as opposed to erotic) person takes over. The sexual psychology of women does not involve visualizing everyday opportunities for intercourse. A woman’s erotic fantasies imply psychologically putting herself in the position of the male penetrator, which is incompatible with the reality of the sexual situations in which she is the recipient of intercourse.
Another major reason why women fake their orgasm is the fear of upsetting their partner. Many men anxiously insist that the woman must have satisfaction. (Rachel Swift1993)