Public speaking: overcome nervousness and control the adrenaline

28-07-2022

If you can speak, you can improve your public speaking. What is your passion? When you’re giving a presentation, think about how it will lead you to what makes you happy. Maybe use a story about your favorite thing to do to describe what you’re trying to say. Relate what you’re trying to say to something you’re passionate about, or maybe something your audience is passionate about!

Let’s talk about fear!

The cycle of fear: How do we create it, how do we use it, how do we lose it?

• No one lives without fear. Trying to get rid of all fear is not only exhausting and frustrating, it ultimately robs you of an important source of motivation and energy. I have been a professional keynote speaker for over 10 years and I still get that adrenaline rush every time I walk on stage, but I use that energy to improve my performance. Fear causes most of our stress. If you’re not afraid, you’re playing too safe or out of touch with your feelings…or maybe you’re dead. Something to think about: Heroes and cowards feel the same fear. The only difference is the action they take.

You are successful in facing your fear. Don’t be afraid of fear: look the monster in the eye! If you deny or run from him, he will track you down and torture you in one of his many disguises.

Let’s take a look at the cycle of fear.

1. Fear exaggerates everything

• Imagined Consequences: People will leave or I’ll put them to sleep.
• They won’t like me: they’ll think I’m an idiot or an amateur.
• They will feel the pressure that I am trying to sell them something and they don’t like me.
• Crazed fear destroys confidence.

2. Fear distorts perception

• YOU SEE WHAT YOU BELIEVE. Perceptions of him are based on his belief system. You look in the front row and everyone looks like the jury that just found you guilty. You see a person look at her watch and you think that NOBODY cares. Someone made the mistake of not giving anyone a bathroom break for two hours and you see people get up to leave just as YOU start talking.
• You see imaginary obstacles.

3. The physical response

• The heart is pounding, the mouth is dry, the palms of the hands are sweating.
• Your larynx tightens, you drop things and your voice rises.

4. The Fear Response: Freeze or Frenzy

• You stop and procrastinate or quickly do bad things.
• You slow down or speed up and your mind starts racing. Chances are you’ll say “weird stuff” and then wonder why that came out of your mouth.

5. Thumbs down: Your worst expectations fulfilled

• In the fog of fear, your performance matches your poor expectations.
• Its performance is below its actual capacity.

Then the next time you perform, you remember the last time and worry even more. It’s not a lack of skill. Fear took control.

How to use the fear of public speaking to your advantage

• Use fear for emotion and energy and channel it into positive action.
• Fear is a survival tool, not a disability.
• Remember that fear tells lies and lies cause failure!

Stage presence: attract attention

• Know what you are going to say.
• Practice makes polish and polish makes money.
• If you have stage presence they will forgive you for anything else.
• Do you want to attract attention? Is it important that people pay attention to you when you speak?
• What do you think you can do to make people notice you more when you speak?
• What do you think people see when they look at you, how do you think you sound?
• Practice talking about your favorite thing.

Practice letting out your passion

• Don’t be Mr. Meek, Mr. Fake, or Mr. Bored. Be yourself, only BIGGER
• Finding your voice: Where are you going? He tries to speak as loud as you can and then comes back down to a natural level.
• Practice theater-style warm-ups like saying over and over as fast as you can: red-leather-yellow-leather Prayed you know you need a unique new york
• Everybody’s Charming: Someone somewhere thinks you’re charming (at least your mother).
• Let’s talk about ourselves: “Enough of me, what do you think of me?”: Remember that no matter how interesting YOU are, the audience will always be more interested in themselves!
• Get Practice Feedback: Ask friends, family, co-workers, and especially a coach if you get a chance to work with one.

Do you have to be funny?

• Nope! you have to be sincere. If you really want people to respond when you speak, speak from the heart, speak with passion. When you speak with passion, you are much more likely to be funny, charming, and strike an emotional chord. Talk about real things.
• What’s funny about it?: K-sound words, stories, making fun of oneself.
• Praise people’s abilities and honor them, listen and look for similarities.
• Be yourself! People are attracted to people who are themselves, plain and simple.

Let’s review the specific techniques: Make it happen

• Never talk with your back to a window.
• Never talk when people are eating.
• Get as much information as you can about your audience.
• Lower your voice to make an important point and look people in the eye.
• Tell stories that describe your information (true stories are best).
• Give wisdom from your point of view.
• Do your best not to say anything that someone has ever said.
• Repeat the important points: use callbacks.
• Make good use of natural hand gestures: don’t point at the audience.
• Remember to channel fear into energy.
• Enjoy the attention!
• Every point you make should have three parts: Say what you’re going to say, say it, and then tell them what you said. Don’t worry about the audience being impressed with you, impress them with what they can do with their information.
• Memorize your introduction: It should include: Your topic, why your topic is important to the audience, and the speaker’s qualifications.
• Be real, be yourself, tell the truth.

The structure of your speech.

• The first and last 30 seconds of your speech will have the most impact.
• Answer the questions that keep CEOs awake: It’s not your job to remind them. What have you done today to be remembered?
• An introduction is meant to get your attention. Memorize your introduction.
• Back Ground: What are you going to talk about?
• Body: Covers 3 points or a central point that everything relates to.
• Using a point-story-point The format is very effective.
• Conclusion: Summarize so they understand where they have been and what they got out of it.

practice: What Professional Speakers Do

• Hone your skills in front of a mirror, if you have to memorize information, do it one sentence at a time, get in front of a real audience as much as possible, practice in the car.
• Fear tells lies but YOU don’t need to. Remember to tell yourself: I am an interesting person and I have good information
• Practice makes polish and polish makes money.