Five simple ways to keep your love alive and fresh
Tours TravelSo you think your relationship is pretty good? Nothing bad, per se, just a little stagnant at times?
Even healthy relationships go through times of negativity, boredom, and adjustment. We are human and we like our routines, but sometimes our routines can become routine. Morning and evening rituals feel stale; family conversation at mealtime is boring; sex feels more like an obligation.
When boredom sets in, you may be tempted to ignore those feelings and hope they go away because you don’t want to risk shaking things up in an otherwise good relationship.
But there is a danger of being silent. We need stimulation; And if our current life is not stimulating, we will look elsewhere for excitement, potentially damaging our love relationships.
Here are 5 simple ways you can keep your love alive and fresh when you’re feeling bored and wanting more from your relationship.
1. Identify new activities to do together
Sit down with your partner and make a list of new things you can do together that are different from your current routines. (Instead of watching TV every night, maybe you could play cards or go for a bike ride or walk. Maybe you could cook dinner together or read a book. Maybe you can start dancing, join a league. bowling, painting lessons together, going golfing or hiking).
2. Hang out together
Plan a getaway to a new and different place, just the two of you, where you can experience a new environment together. Each of you could be involved in planning a vacation or a hiking trip or a weekend visit to downtown museums.
3. Schedule dates and times with each other
Schedule a set time each week for coffee or breakfast together or meeting for a drink after work to discuss what has been going on in your lives or to make plans you need to make for the next week.
4. Talk about your sex life
Is your sex life working well for you? Too … too little … too routine? What do you need to change?
5. Tell your partner why you love her
Remind your partner why you fell in love in the first place. Share the qualities you appreciate most in him or her. Mention specific details to make it real and credible. He touches the base at noon sometimes, just to say “I love you”, “I’m thinking of you.”
Sometimes we think that shaking things up in our relationship or changing our outdated routines takes too much effort and thought. In reality, a little act of kindness can make a big difference. A small gesture that shows that you are thinking about him or her and that you care about your partner, or a small detour in daily routines, can have immense benefits in all areas of your relationship.
There is nothing wrong with your home just because you have to dust the furniture, make the beds, wash the dishes, and clean the windows from time to time. Every home needs regular maintenance and care to shine and be a comfortable place to live.
The same goes for your spouse. Your wife, husband or partner needs to know that they are a priority in your life. It doesn’t take a lot of time or thought to tell you that you are happy to be together.
You don’t need to do all five actions at once, but keep these tips in mind to maintain the healthy, loving relationship you already have, or work towards achieving it as your goal. The care you show your partner and the effort you put into maintaining your relationship will come back to you in vain.