Are you hiding from your grievance after the death of a loved one?

When a loved one dies, it’s hard to face the reality of never seeing that person again. It is extremely painful to pick up the pieces and move on. Wouldn’t he wish he could find that safe place where he could be free from death, as well as the grief and deep emotions over the loss of a loved one? Wouldn’t it be nice to just decide that you won’t deal with those situations that make you feel uncomfortable, fearful, or emotional? Wouldn’t it be great if you could choose exactly what you want to happen in your life, how it happens, and when it happens? Sure it would be great, but the bottom line is that we can’t run away from fears all our lives; we cannot hide under our covers or behind our parents forever; we don’t have the option to write that perfect story of our life. More importantly, we cannot hide from death; it is part of everyone’s life. Therefore, we have to be in the moment today, live life and face every experience that comes our way, no matter what.

So let me ask you this. Are you hiding from your emotions and your grief over the loss of a loved one, or any situation in your life for that matter? Do you find yourself burying your guilt, anger, resentment, and other emotions because it is so much easier to do this than to face every single feeling? Are you afraid of what you will go through when facing each emotion? Have you tried to deal with your grievance and felt that things were getting worse, and as a result, you ran away even faster than before? If you’re like me, you’ve answered ‘yes’ to at least one of these questions at some point in your life. I get it! I understand. But, here’s the deal, if you don’t face your emotions, your grievances, or your fears, you’re only hurting yourself in the long run. You are setting yourself up for even greater pain, guilt, or anger, or whatever the emotion is. You may not realize it, but burying your feelings, or hiding from fear, or running from your grievance, shuts down a part of you that deserves to live. It is imperative for your health and well-being to face your fears, emotions, and grievances head-on. If you don’t face it and accept it when the situation occurs, you will be reminded of it over and over again throughout your life until you get over it.

So whatever your situation, whether you’re grieving, conquering a fear, or navigating different emotions, try this to see if you have size:

Feel and face your feelings! Be honest with yourself about your emotions! Accept the fact that you are in this situation! Once you feel it, face it, and accept it (at a very deep level), have the intention to let it go forever! When you make the intention, mean it from the bottom of your heart (not lip service)! Finally, move on in a healthy way. You can do it! When you face your feelings about the death of a loved one and go through the grieving process, then you have the strength and courage to continue with your life in a “healthy” way. I wish you the best!